Monday, June 10, 2013

How To Become Attractive - Get Girls Begging For Your Attention

Have you ever seen some weird looking fat guy with a stunning hot chick?


Or maybe you were walking down the street on your lunch break and see the most beautiful girl you’ve ever seen before…But you don’t think you have what it takes to attract a girl of this caliber.

Dont be these guys
(Dont be these guys)

Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could attract this type of girl?

Well guess what…YOU CAN.

For most guys this is a fantasy and think it takes a certain “skill” or “technique” to get these types of girls.

“How to become attractive” to the opposite sex is probably one of the BIGGEST questions asked by men AND women. Since guys usually think with their cocks, this question plagues more guys than women. In “modern” society the women are the choosers, and this puts unneccessary stress on most guys to attract and bed beautiful quality women.

Well this is complete BULLSHIT.

There isn’t a book or guide that you can read that will tell you the EXACT one way to become more attractive to women. Sure, there are books and websites that claim to have the “magic” pill to becoming more attractive.

But the truth is there are only QUALITIES and BEHAVIORS that are known to be the most attractive to women and that naturals (guys who are naturally good with women and get laid) have that gets them laid.

Will adopting these behaviors guarantee you will bang every girl you make eye contact with? NO.

All you can do is optimize yourself to be able to make the most of each situation with a girl you approach either through cold approach or through a social circle.

So today I will be discussing the top qualities and behaviors MYSELF and other naturals (Tyler, Julien, Eg.) have adopted and developed into our core personality.

NOTE: Before you read this article and get to technical or in your head..I advise you check out this video by Julien on attraction:

Top Qualities and Behaviors of Attractive Naturals – Becoming the guy EVERYONE wants to meet

1. Unshakable Confidence / Solid Beliefs


Confidence is probably the number one attractive quality that will roll of ANY girls tongue if you ask her what attracts her. When someone says confidence you may think this is being a arrogant asshole who only cares about himself.

No, being more confident with women means:

1) having the balls to approach her and know it really isn’t a big deal.
2) Literally not giving a shit about the interaction you are having with the girl.
3) Not being afraid to lose her.
4) Believe in yourself.
5) You don’t need permission to do something you want. Dont be a permission boy.
6) You go after what you want in life.

2. Being Fun / Funny

Nothing opens a women’s heart better than a making her laugh or giggle. One of my best approaches to being funny is: “Cocky Comedy”.

Check out this video for some examples:


Cocky comedy is the type of humor that makes a girl go ‘I can’t believe you just said that!” and taps you playfully on the shoulder. If you are a fan of a show called californication, you’ll notice Hank Moody is the king of Cocky comedy.

When I first started using cocky comedy I would take it too far sometimes. So learn to balance it by not taking it to far. You want to say things that are humorous while pushing the boundaries of being offensive but not TOO offensive or over the line.

Ultimately you wont to be the center of the fun. Be the party. Learn to let go. Dance, dont give a shit, and have a blast,  give positive emotions instead of taking them. People(women) will love you for it.

3. Be a Teaser

Teasing doesn’t mean poking fun of some one’s body fat or being slightly obese. What I mean is teasing in an emotionally and physical way that builds positive responses.

Teasing a women in a “Cocky comedy” way can start some great vibing. For example, everytime a girl tells me she likes something I am doing…ill STOP. This builds a playful vibe of her chasing me to give her more of those positive emotions and me teasing her.

Get it? This could be related to “Push pull” depending on how you use it. It can be very powerful though.

Be careful, their is a such thing as over doing it. Don't tease to much. You can get a feel for when it is a good time to tease and when its a good time not to.

4. Be Authentic, Real, Honest, And CLEAR IN YOUR INTENTIONS

This is a BIG one. Women can smell a fake from a mile away. They are THE BEST bullshit detectors. Trust me on this.

Women love a guy who is clear in what he wants and is authentic.

For example, you are on a date with a girl and you want to kiss her. Most average guys will just “try to play it cool” in fear that they will lose the girl. Instead of being clear in their intentions, letting the girl know he wants her and making out with her.

Be authentic. If a girl asks you if she you like her shoes and deep down you really think they are ugly…Be authentic. Don’t be an asshole. But let her know they are okay but you don’t care for them to much. This is what I mean by be authentic…Women hate a guy who tries to kiss ass to win her over. Trust me, it doesn’t work. It will land you in the friend zone and alone at home jizzing on your keyboard.

Most guys act in a way that show they are ASHAMED of their desires. Don’t be this guy, EMBRACE your DESIRES. Don’t try to hide them in fear it will cause you humiliation or losing the girl...

Trust me, you will gain more respect and women by being CONGRUENT and EXPRESIVE IN YOUR DESIRES.

Here is a good video where tyler talks about being congruent and authentic:

And Another

5. Set Bounderies / Dont Take Shit


In other words…Don’t take shit from a girl. Or don’t put up with a girls bull shit in general.

Set boundaries for yourself. For example, if a girl is trying to make you chase her beyond what you are willing to. Let her know, you are not a chaser and you are not going to chase her all night. Then roll out if she doesnt comply.

Dont be a ass kisser. This will get you no where...With women or in life.

In other words respect yourself, and don’t accept behaviors or people who are below your standards.

6. Engage a womens Emotions and Body…NOT HER MIND.


In reality women don’t know what they want and what really gets their panties soaking wet. All they know is when they meet a guy that makes it happen…It HAPPENS.

In a women’s logical mind, if someone asked her would she sleep with a guy only knowing him for a few hours…she would more than likely say no.

If this same girls meet a guy with all the qualities above, and he embraces her body, her emotions, escalates, touches her, and they are vibing…she is likely to go home with this guy. Regardless of what her logical mind says.

When dealing with women NEVER embrace their logical or mind.

If you ask women, they will tell you this will work, but trust me. It WILL NOT GET YOU LAID.

Don’t be afraid to touch a women, kiss her when you feel its time and her body is telling you, escalate, look her in the eyes, and ultimately pull her. DONT BE AFRAID TO ESCALATE.

Be Alpha.

Like I said, there are many ways of becoming more attractive to women.
But these are the main qualities of mine and elite players in the game.

How to have a KILLER Night Every Night – Having a blast every night you go out

How to have a KILLER Night Every Night – Having a blast every night you go out

Ever read a forum post or blog post of a guy complaining about “I sucked ass tonight...Couldn’t approach. So I just came home.”...Usually they will end their night in masturbation and porn.


Ever read one of those? If you haven’t and you’re new to the game, you’ll come across a post like this sooner or later. I call them Bitch Posts. This guys suck and wont get any better complaing..All they have to do is..TAKE ACTION.

Don’t let external factors determine whether you have a great night. Such as:

1. Getting blown out but you only made 3 approaches.
2. Standing around like a chode scared to let go. Totally “In your head”.
3. Getting massive Approach Anxiety.
4. Just plain out being a bitch.

In the end...All you have to do is TAKE ACTION. Just through yourself in sets.

So today I am going to discuss what I think are the top steps to going out and having a killer great night consistently.

Steps in Having a FUN / KILLER Night Every Night

Step 1 – WARM UP

Does Kobe Bryant or LeBron James come right out on a game night and just jump on the court and start playing?...NO. They warm up first.


They warm-up to get the kinks out.
To Get present and focused on their goals.
Get their shot going.
Get their muscles warmed-up.
And getting in touch with their deep core fundamentals so they are able to perform come game time.

Game and successfully picking up women consistently is identical to this.

Most newbies expect to come out and on their first approach get a make out or pull a girl. Well this isn’t how it works. Eventually you will be able to come out and get a make out during the first approach but it takes time to get to that level. Start small. And Even still, getting a makeout on your first approach is rare..So dont make intentions to do this.

When I go out, I ALWAYS pick a warm-up set. I go into this set with NO intensions. I just go in with something simple and basic… “Hey, what’s up?”...Thats it.

Then introduce myself to the girl(s), and then just chat them up for a minute or so…then GET OUT.

Note: If a warm-up set hooks, the girl doesnt want you to leave, and its on. STAY IN. Don't leave just because its the warm-up.

Yep. That’s it. Sometimes I will even think of the dumbest most amusing thing I can say and then say it. What this does is loosens you up. Gets you out of your logical mind (maybe from work, school or whatever you’ve been doing all day) and into your fun, adventurous, not giving a fuck side of yourself. And most of all...present.

I usually do about 2 to 3 warm-up sets before I start going for closes.
So remember…ALWAYS Warm up.

Day Game Warm-ups

In Day game it’s different. You don’t have time to go around and warm up while on your lunch break. In day game it’s okay to be logical and approach a girl. During the day the girl is usually working, shopping, or on her way somewhere and isn’t really looking for someone to give her a good time at this moment.

At night, women go out to have a great time, have fun, and to let go. If you come in logical of course she will blow you out, it’s going against what she wants or “think” she wants at this point in time. Get what I’m saying?
On to the next…


This is a big one. This is probably one of the biggest issues I see with most guys who go out at night. They are so worried about trying to portray an image (Like James Bond or some other “smooth” ladies man) that they take themselves too seriously and look pathetic in a night club / Dance environment.

They don’t dance, have a drink and lean against the bar, stand around all night, stare at girls, make a pathetic attempt to approach a girl who is dancing looking for fun, and gets blown out...goes home and complains about women being bitches.

Most guys try to be SMOOTH.

Cut this shit out. It’s a complete waste of time. Don’t try to be smooth. All you are doing is fucking yourself.

Have a blast. Have fun. Enjoy the night. Even if you can’t dance. Just dance and have fun. When people see you having a great time, they admire that. Even if you look dumb, they will support you.

So stop taking yourself to seriously. Laugh at yourself when you do something dumb. Don’t take interactions with girls seriously. Be spontaneous. Say something dumb. Be self-amused. Laugh. Approach. Give positive emotions. Match a girl’s vibe when you approach her.

Don’t take yourself seriously. Let go of that “mental image” of yourself....

You imagine yourself opening the girl...James Bond style....sweeping her off her feet, and taking her home…LET GO OF THIS.

Be present. Be in the moment. All there is, is now. Get into the “is-ness”.


This is key. I use to go out and just only look to approach 9s and 10s. Yeah, you can best believe I wasn’t getting laid.

One of the biggest steps to having a killer night EVERY NIGHT is to APPROACH ALL.

Girls who are a little over weight. Girls with a little acne.
I usually approach girls ranging from 7-10. I do have standards and tend to go no lower than a 7.

Just because you think you deserve a 10 does not mean you are getting one tonight buddy. Maybe in the future…

So approach all. Even if the girl isn’t that attractive or you don’t find her that attractive. Just approach. See what’s up. Besides there won’t be a tremendous amount of 9s and 10s out every night. Maybe 1 or 2.

You will see an abundance of girls who are 7-8 on any given night. These girls are great girls too. Sexy. Elegant. Horny. And ready to meet you. Do you have to marry them? Of course not.

So...Tonight…APPROACH ALL. This will lead to all sorts of adventures, crazy shit, and a great night.

Remember…to baby-step interactions.



Is getting wasted a bad thing sometimes when your with our friends? Nope.
Is getting wasted every time you go out bad? Yes.

1. When you are drunk or wasted you will probably have whiskey dick when pulling a girl.
2. Women will respect and appreciate you more by you being your total self while still being “That guy”
3. You won’t remember shit the next day. Not to mention you will probably feel horrible.
4. It’s bad for your health
5. It can become a crutch or liquid courage.
6. You probably won’t remember anything so you won’t have those references.

Am I saying don’t drink at all? NO. It’s okay to have a drink. Totally fine. But just limit yourself.

For me being under 21(20) I have had to force myself to let go and have fun without needing alcohol. Lots of times when I leave the club I am on a natural high, from letting go!

So I challenge you to cut back on the alcohol and force yourself to learn to let go and pimp it without liquid courage. Trust me, this will take your game to the next level. Especially learning to just…TURN IT ON automatically without needing anything external.

Relying on external things is the worst thing for any human. Remember this…

Step 5 – Stop Being Needy and Seeking Validation

Basically, stop letting whether you get laid, get a make out, or get some number closes determine the outcome of your night and how much fun you have.


In the end, all you can do is…DO YOUR PART. Which is GET IN THERE.

When approaching a girl, stop looking for her to give you a good time. Instead, you bring the good time to her. Pull her to the dance floor. Grind with her. Make jokes to her. Be flirty. Chatty. Witty. Do funny dances. Escalate. Kiss her. Makeout with her.

Don’t rely on a girl accepting you or any other things to have a good time.
Once you grasp this and use it, it is VERY effective. Women will love and beg to be around you.


Step 6 – Know You Are Enough…Come from a place of higher value

This is a big one too. This is a concept that is hammered by RSD Alex. YOU ARE ENOUGH.

Know that no matter what a girl says, or does to you, in the end you know you are enough.
You are just a man. Nothing else matters. Don’t be reactive. If a girl tells you, you are ugly...Who cares? You are a man...don’t react to that.

If a girl tells you, you’re hot. Don’t react to it. You are enough. You are just a man.
Keep this attitude. It is a common attitude that most naturals have.

It will lead to having a great night and not letting external things determine your night.
If you were to ever game with me or go out with me you would quickly realize I just literally don’t give a fuck at all. This is because I know I am enough. I am a just a man.

In fact sometimes when I am in set, Ill just embrace “awkward” moments because I just don’t care. I am enough.

Now, do I go around like some knot on a log? NO

I still escalate, open with a strong frame, pull the girl in, and be chatty and witty and fun.
But I am non-reactive and literally don’t care if the girl walks away at any moment. I am enough.

Another thing I do is, I ALWAYS seek to self-amuse myself in interactions. If you notice things getting boring or you “run out of things to say”, remember…Self amused.

Welp, those are my top steps that allow me to have a great night every time I’m out.
For a deeper discussion on this topic. Check out Tyler’s video on this. Great stuff.

Check it out.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Be Persistent - Stop Making Excuses For Not Taking Action


So today I've had a chance to do some reflecting and self actualization.

I've enjoyed my journey in the game thus far and it has presented amazing, and wonderful opportunities for me.

But i must say, in order to be successful or to be a successful "player" you MUST be persistent.

If not you will get spit out faster than you got in. Trust me. This game isn't for little pussies. Its people who step the fuck up and take action mofo.

You know, life really takes you on a roller coaster. Sometimes it seems like things aren't going the way they should, or going as planned.

For example, i work as a intern. Unfortunately this summer the agency i am working for isn't hiring any full-time PAID interns. I am lucky enough to keep my internship for the summer, but for some reason my boss isn't going to allow me to work full-time this summer..I'm not sure the reason why yet, but i will find out tomorrow. It maybe issues of the budgets..Not really sure.

 On top of that i don't have any parent support for food, clothes, gas, car insurance, or even paying for school. In fact i'm not even sure how i will get into school next year since i wont have a co-signer for student loans. I drive a piece of shit car around(Which i bought and paid for myself). While it is a real clunker i am grateful for having something to drive at least.

One of my parents will be in jail for the next 10 years of my life for some dumb shit. That parent also left me with over $2,000 worth of credit card debt to pay back..

My other parent makes just about the same amount of money i make as a intern and struggles to make ends meet with my other 3 younger siblings. So yeah, there is nothing for me.

The struggle...So basically all i have is myself.
Its either drown or swim..

On top of that i just found out i was not accepted to the George Washington University where i wanted to attend. So now i am waiting on University of Maryland, hopefully i get accepted there and can make things happen...We will see. If i don't get accepted there its back to ground zero..

The struggle...

And yes, it is a real struggle. I'll be honest, its not exactly fun not knowing how you will finish school, how you will make ends meet, have clothes or shoes..not knowing if you will have a job after the summer and still have bills such as cell phone, insurance, credit card debt etc.

On a side note, i have managed to start my own Mobile Application Development company. We have about 3 games published right now. None of which generate a significant amount of revenue due to lack of exposure and of quality. The more games and apps we build the better and better they get and the more revenue we see. How did i learn to code?....READING BOOKS. Starting my senior year in high school.

Am i complaining about my life?

Fuck no..

I am making a point though..Among all the shit going on in my life..I still make it a priority to pimp it. While i may not be completely comfortable where i am right now, i can still go out and land hotties.

Like tyler says in one of his videos, no matter what happens you can always go out and pimp it.

Even among everything, i am still persistent, i still get out there and take action. Even when i don't know how i will put gas in my car..Some times i don't even have money for lunch, yet i still pimp it and land hotties.

Whats my point?

NEVER make EXCUSES for WHY you CANT TAKE ACTION....unless your on your death bed or hospitalized.

Monday, June 3, 2013

7 Easy Steps To Gettting A Girls Number + In-Field Recordings From Day Game


Just wrote my first article for RSD Nation. Only have 3 more left before i become a "official" RSD intern.

Check it out! It includes some pretty good in-field recording of me doing a two set.