“I got my eyes on you…your everything that I see, I want
your high love and emotions…”
Writing this as I jam to the new Drake song – “Hold on, We’re
Going Home”. I really like that new jam. I personally think this song can
relate to pick-up.
Just listen to the words. ;-)
Went out for day game yesterday during right after work to a
local “hotspot” for day game. A great place to pick-up women in our city. It
was actually pretty brutal though. I got into about 50 sets over the course of
3 hours. I know i probably walked a total of 6 miles. Hooked quite a few sets but for the most part they were all
no-goes, or a flakey number.
What’s my point?
Don’t expect every session of Day Game or
your night out to be good, and don't always expect to get the results you want or
think you deserve.
Unfortunately, there are things that you can’t control. Maybe
all of the girls you approach are having a bad night (The odds of that happening
is low). Or maybe your dog died and you’re out of it…Either way, don’t be so
hard on yourself about having a few bad nights. It happens to the best of us. I
personally use these experiences to LEARN. I think when you get blown out and
fail over and over, you LEARN better than if you were to always get what you
wanted. That’s just how our universe works. Remember, one of the best ways to be SUCCESSFUL is to FAIL as quickly has possible and LEARN.
I digress.
So after a pretty shitty session of day game. I caught the
train back home. Then went out later with a few wings.
We decided to hit up the streets around 12:00am. This time
is usually a bad time to start street game, ESPECIALLY if you do not have
intentions on joining a girl or group of girls to a bar or club. For me, since I am
under 21 I don’t have intentions on that.
So I simply use this time as my “warm-up” time. I literally
go from set to set.
Something like that. And as the night progresses it starts to become more of
climb uphill instead of down.
So I got a few number closes, totally self-amused enjoying
the night. Then, I spot a STUNNER. Well, my definition of a stunner at least (Leggy,
rigid facial features, tight body, Latina). She is walking past with a group of
friends.
I know this is my type of girl and feel COMPLETELY entitled to
her. I deserve this girl.
I go in. Bang.
She was extremely hesitant to stop since she
was with her friends, but I knew I deserved her so I pretty much made her stop.
(Not in an aggressive way, but more of a persistent way). She stops while her
friends watch from about 20ft away. It was a group of guys and girls. I tell
her:
“Listen, I saw you from a far, and notice how you are just my type. You
know, I go out a lot and I meet a lot of people. It’s not often I meet a girl I
really like that often. Or i;m attracted to right from the start.”
She tells me she thinks I am lying, so I simply tell her "You dont have to believe me, but I’m just being honest".
I notice her friends
waiting and I knew I wouldn’t be able to hold her much longer since she was
starting to feel pressure from her friends to keep walking with them. So
being socially aware, I ask where she was headed with her friends. She tells
me, and I tell her I’ll walk with her. Then I stick out my arm and she grabs
it. We walk, talk and connect until we get to the destination. She wanted me to
go inside with her but I knew the bouncers were not going to let me in unless I
pay a good amount of money. So I told her I had to re-join my friends. And I tell
her to take my number and call me. She takes it. Calls me right then and there.
Text her later that night. Responded within a few minutes.
So what is the major takeaway from this that you can add to your game?
Well if you didn’t realize,
I was very sincere during this pick-up.
And there are a few reasons why this worked:
I was not coming from a place of neediness or desperation.
Now that I have abundance, I was not desperate
not to lose her.
Iwas normal, no flashy pick-up gamey shit.
When being sincere you must be CERTAIN you are not coming
from a place of NEEDINESS or DESPERATION. Basically, saying shit just to not lose the girl. Bad, Bad.
If you are being “sincere” just to keep the girl talking to
you…Well, more than likely she will pick up on this and still leave.
People can
see sincerity by your expressions, and especially EYE CONTACT.
Also with this girl I knew if I opened her with flash game
or being “gamey” it wasn’t going to happen.
How did I know? It’s called
REFERENCE experience from taking action a lot and being socially aware of situations and dynamics.
So it’s okay to be sincere. Just make sure you are coming from the right place.
How to have a KILLER Night Every Night – Having a blast every night you go out
Ever read a forum post or blog post of a guy complaining about “I sucked ass tonight...Couldn’t approach. So I just came home.”...Usually they will end their night in masturbation and porn.
Ever read one of those? If you haven’t and you’re new to the game,
you’ll come across a post like this sooner or later. I call them Bitch
Posts. This guys suck and wont get any better complaing..All they have
to do is..TAKE ACTION.
Don’t let external factors determine whether you have a great night. Such as:
1. Getting blown out but you only made 3 approaches.
2. Standing around like a chode scared to let go. Totally “In your head”.
3. Getting massive Approach Anxiety.
4. Just plain out being a bitch.
In the end...All you have to do is TAKE ACTION. Just through yourself in sets.
So today I am going to discuss what I think are the top steps to going out and having a killer great night consistently.
Steps in Having a FUN / KILLER Night Every Night
Step 1 – WARM UP
Does Kobe Bryant or LeBron James come right out on a game night and just
jump on the court and start playing?...NO. They warm up first.
They warm-up to get the kinks out.
To Get present and focused on their goals.
Get their shot going.
Get their muscles warmed-up.
And getting in touch with their deep core fundamentals so they are able to perform come game time.
Game and successfully picking up women consistently is identical to this.
Most newbies expect to come out and on their first approach get a make
out or pull a girl. Well this isn’t how it works. Eventually you will be
able to come out and get a make out during the first approach but it
takes time to get to that level. Start small. And Even still, getting a
makeout on your first approach is rare..So dont make intentions to do
this.
When I go out, I ALWAYS
pick a warm-up set. I go into this set with NO intensions. I just go in
with something simple and basic… “Hey, what’s up?”...Thats it.
Then introduce myself to the girl(s), and then just chat them up for a minute or so…then GET OUT.
Note:If a warm-up set hooks, the girl doesnt want you to leave, and its on. STAY IN. Don't leave just because its the warm-up.
Yep. That’s it. Sometimes I will even think of the dumbest most amusing
thing I can say and then say it. What this does is loosens you up. Gets
you out of your logical mind (maybe from work, school or whatever you’ve
been doing all day) and into your fun, adventurous, not giving a fuck
side of yourself. And most of all...present.
I usually do about 2 to 3 warm-up sets before I start going for closes.
So remember…ALWAYS Warm up.
Day Game Warm-ups
In Day game it’s different. You don’t have time to go around and warm up
while on your lunch break. In day game it’s okay to be logical and
approach a girl. During the day the girl is usually working, shopping,
or on her way somewhere and isn’t really looking for someone to give her
a good time at this moment.
At night, women go out to have a great time, have fun, and to let go. If
you come in logical of course she will blow you out, it’s going against
what she wants or “think” she wants at this point in time. Get what I’m
saying?
On to the next…
Step 2 – STOP TAKING YOURSELF SO SERIOUSLY
This is a big one. This is
probably one of the biggest issues I see with most guys who go out at
night. They are so worried about trying to portray an image (Like James
Bond or some other “smooth” ladies man) that they take themselves too
seriously and look pathetic in a night club / Dance environment.
They don’t dance, have a drink and lean against the bar, stand around
all night, stare at girls, make a pathetic attempt to approach a girl
who is dancing looking for fun, and gets blown out...goes home and
complains about women being bitches.
Most guys try to beSMOOTH.
Cut this shit out. It’s a complete waste of time. Don’t try to be smooth. All you are doing is fucking yourself.
Have a blast. Have fun. Enjoy the night. Even if you can’t dance. Just
dance and have fun. When people see you having a great time, they admire
that. Even if you look dumb, they will support you.
So
stop taking yourself to seriously. Laugh at yourself when you do
something dumb. Don’t take interactions with girls seriously. Be
spontaneous. Say something dumb. Be self-amused. Laugh. Approach. Give
positive emotions. Match a girl’s vibe when you approach her.
Don’t take yourself seriously. Let go of that “mental image” of yourself....
You imagine yourself opening the girl...James Bond style....sweeping her off her feet, and taking her home…LET GO OF THIS.
Be present. Be in the moment. All there is, is now. Get into the “is-ness”.
Step 3 – APPROACH ALL
This is key. I use to go out and just only look to approach 9s and 10s. Yeah, you can best believe I wasn’t getting laid.
One of the biggest steps to having a killer night EVERY NIGHT is to APPROACH ALL.
Girls who are a little over weight. Girls with a little acne.
I usually approach girls ranging from 7-10. I do have standards and tend to go no lower than a 7.
Just because you think you deserve a 10 does not mean you are getting one tonight buddy. Maybe in the future…
So approach all. Even if the girl isn’t that attractive or you don’t
find her that attractive. Just approach. See what’s up. Besides there
won’t be a tremendous amount of 9s and 10s out every night. Maybe 1 or
2.
You will see an abundance of girls who are 7-8 on any given night. These
girls are great girls too. Sexy. Elegant. Horny. And ready to meet you.
Do you have to marry them? Of course not.
So...Tonight…APPROACH ALL. This will lead to all sorts of adventures, crazy shit, and a great night.
Remember…to baby-step interactions.
Step 4 – STOP GETTING WASTED
Is getting wasted a bad thing sometimes when your with our friends? Nope.
Is getting wasted every time you go out bad? Yes.
1. When you are drunk or wasted you will probably have whiskey dick when pulling a girl.
2. Women will respect and appreciate you more by you being your total self while still being “That guy”
3. You won’t remember shit the next day. Not to mention you will probably feel horrible.
4. It’s bad for your health
5. It can become a crutch or liquid courage.
6. You probably won’t remember anything so you won’t have those references.
Am I saying don’t drink at all? NO. It’s okay to have a drink. Totally fine. But just limit yourself.
For me being under 21(20) I have had to force myself to let go and have
fun without needing alcohol. Lots of times when I leave the club I am on
a natural high, from letting go!
So I challenge you to cut back on the alcohol and force yourself to
learn to let go and pimp it without liquid courage. Trust me, this will
take your game to the next level. Especially learning to just…TURN IT ON
automatically without needing anything external.
Relying on external things is the worst thing for any human. Remember this…
Step 5 – Stop Being Needy and Seeking Validation
Basically, stop letting whether you get laid, get a make out, or get
some number closes determine the outcome of your night and how much fun
you have.
In the end, all you can do is…DO YOUR PART. Which is GET IN THERE.
When approaching a girl, stop looking for her to give you a good time.
Instead, you bring the good time to her. Pull her to the dance floor.
Grind with her. Make jokes to her. Be flirty. Chatty. Witty. Do funny
dances. Escalate. Kiss her. Makeout with her.
Don’t rely on a girl accepting you or any other things to have a good time.
Once you grasp this and use it, it is VERY effective. Women will love and beg to be around you.
Because….YOU ARE THE FUN.
Step 6 – Know You Are Enough…Come from a place of higher value
This is a big one too. This is a concept that is hammered by RSD Alex. YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Know that no matter what a girl says, or does to you, in the end you know you are enough.
You are just a man. Nothing else matters. Don’t be reactive. If a girl
tells you, you are ugly...Who cares? You are a man...don’t react to
that.
If a girl tells you, you’re hot. Don’t react to it. You are enough. You are just a man.
Keep this attitude. It is a common attitude that most naturals have.
It will lead to having a great night and not letting external things determine your night.
If you were to ever game with me or go out with me you would quickly
realize I just literally don’t give a fuck at all. This is because I
know I am enough. I am a just a man.
In fact sometimes when I am in set, Ill just embrace “awkward” moments because I just don’t care. I am enough.
Now, do I go around like some knot on a log? NO
I still escalate, open with a strong frame, pull the girl in, and be chatty and witty and fun.
But I am non-reactive and literally don’t care if the girl walks away at any moment. I am enough.
Another thing I do is, I ALWAYS seek to self-amuse myself in
interactions. If you notice things getting boring or you “run out of
things to say”, remember…Self amused.
Welp, those are my top steps that allow me to have a great night every time I’m out.
For a deeper discussion on this topic. Check out Tyler’s video on this. Great stuff.
